Do You Hear What I Hear?

Today I want to share with you a communication style that we learned about at the marriage retreat. It's called E.V.E.

Ever said something to your mate or vice versa and all of sudden feelings are hurt, folks get offended and down, down , down the conversation goes?! I know I have and this simple method really works. The problem is sometimes we "hear" something that the speaker wasn't trying to communicate. So it's always good to first think the best (Phil.4:8) and then work the E.V.E. principle.

So let me break it down for you.

E- Echo
This means when you said something that was taken offensively you calmly ask the other person to repeat or echo back to you what they heard you say, then you go on to V.

V- Validate
After they echo it back to you- you validate that person. Meaning you let them know- Ok you heard XYZ...at that point you let them know that's not what you meant just as sweetly and reassuringly as you can.

E-Empathize
After you really get what the person "heard" you let them know - Ok I understand why what I said made you feel like that or I understand why that was offensive to you. Then you work through it together.

The Bible says with all thy getting get understanding. Proverbs 4:7. I hope this will help you and I continue to seek out and explore new ways to make our marriages healthier, happier, and a brighter example of God's glory in the earth.


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