The Desert or the Promised Land Pt 3

Ok! So how have you been doing this week? Have you been YIELDING to your husband. Have you decided that you are going to be even more supportive and kind? Have you made up in your mind that regardless of how he acts, or the decisions he makes I'm going to yield to the Word of God in my behavior and attitude. Now let's make something clear. That doesn't mean you just smile politely without making your position known. It doesn't mean that you act like that princess in Coming to America either. Remember her? The prince upon meeting his future wife for the first time wanted to get acquainted with her. He asks her what do you like and she says "whatever you like" and that was her response to the next several questions. In some cultures that works really well for some couples, and I'm not knocking that. I Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God. It's tight but it's right! COME BACK!!!! (-:
Since I'am an American and this is the culture that I've been raised up in, it is the culture that I will address. Ok so we talked last about yielding. Did you or do you understand how to yield or surrender to your husband. There are several ways, but let me take one from one of my favorite movies Fire Proof. In the movie the husband has decided to put away money for a boat and his wife isn't happy about it. They kind of get into it behind it as well. Now why did I choose to start off with an example of money? Well the statistics show that infidelity, stress, incompatibility, are NOT the number one cause of divorce,FINANCES are! So back to Fire Proof, Caleb the husband decides that he is going to keep his 24,000 for his boat while, his wife allows the enemy to use that as yet another nail to drive into the coffin of their failing marriage. Now if you saw the movie Caleb ends up yielding to God's leading by blessing his wife's mother with a new hospital bed. He's accepted Christ and now we can tell by his fruit of selflessness that he is really changed. Now everybody's situation is different. Some husbands are the only bread winner, some wives are the only bread winner, and in America there is a a high percentage of two income families. So with all that being said how do we yield and yet express our opinions to our husbands when we disagree with their financial decisions? Without getting real deep and spiritual the first step is "dying to self". Say what, say what?

Yes! We have to get to a point where we are more focused on "doing right" than being focused on "who's right." Marriage like Christianity is not Burger King!LOL! For either to be successful we cannot "have it our way".(-: Now I'm keepin this light so I'm not talking about financial irresponsibility on the part of a spouse like him taking the rent money and going to the casino or spending the grocery, or bill money on a new suit. Ummm nooooooo. I'm simply talking about him making a decision from his God given positional authority that you disagree with and you loosing your mind behind it!LOL! Now what do you do when that happens? Attack him and his character, attack his parents? If that is you- STOP! That's NOT the way to handle it. We don't attack the person we attack the ISSUE. After you get a grip on you..pray, put some worship music on, whatever you need to regroup you go to him and let him know how you feel about his decision, then you go to the Father and you pray. Pray for wisdom and understanding on your part. Meaning..this may be a good move but he has the revelation on it and you don't. Or maybe he is off and you are right. No matter what you SURRENDER TO GOD"S WAY of handling it. HOW? By letting your husband KNOW how you feel in a respectful and non threatening way then by LETTING IT GO! God will communicate either your error or his and then you go from there. Nagging and degrading him IS NOT God's way and neither should it be ours. We shouldn't be with holding sex or throwing tantrums either. I know it's hard sisters but if we are going to be successful in our marriages in these days of turmoil and covenant breaking sprees we have got to get a handle on ourselves and represent and respect our husbands no matter what. God is watching and so are our children...I'll touch on that next time.

Pray about it!!!

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